For many of us, strengthening our marriage relationship is important. But oftentimes, it gets overlooked because we are too busy working, taking care of kids, running errands and attending church / social activities to edify or edifying one another.
More often then not, our busy lifestyles cause us to pay little or no attention to our own emotional needs as well as the emotional needs of our spouse. Typically, women are better communicators and have no problem expressing their frustrations to their husbands. For example, some women might say, “Why aren’t you listening to me? I am tired of saying the same thing over and over to you.” Or, “Why do I need you if I am doing everything around here. I guess if I want it done right, I have to do it myself.” This daily routine can be detrimental to a marriage.
More often then not, our busy lifestyles cause us to pay little or no attention to our own emotional needs as well as the emotional needs of our spouse. Typically, women are better communicators and have no problem expressing their frustrations to their husbands. For example, some women might say, “Why aren’t you listening to me? I am tired of saying the same thing over and over to you.” Or, “Why do I need you if I am doing everything around here. I guess if I want it done right, I have to do it myself.” This daily routine can be detrimental to a marriage.
These little comments tend to damage a man’s ego over time. Husbands and wives must spend time edifying one another in love, not criticizing or complaining about what the other is doing wrong. One of the key building blocks to a successful marriage is edification. See our Christian Marriage page.
Edification is defined as the building up and uplifting either morally or spiritually of another. The Bible advises us in Ephesians 4:29, Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.
With that said, I have found three areas where a wife should begin to edify her husband’s inner man. They are:
His strength (warrior), His thoughts (wisdom) and His needs (wishes).
The first area in edifying your husband’s inner man is to encourage his God-given warrior strength.
Christian men who follow the Word of God are the best warriors because they recognize their position as head of the household and seek to function in that role.
The second area in edifying your husband’s inner man is to help advance his thoughts toward wisdom. You might be thinking, “How am I going to do that, he doesn’t even listen to me.” The answer is, you are not going to do it. God will. Wisdom is a priceless commodity that supplies us with knowledge and information to make good decisions. The Bible says in Proverbs 15:33, “The fear of the Lord is the instruction for
wisdom.” Many of us decide that we are going to tell our husbands exactly what they should do and what they should not do. More often than not, they hear us, but don’t heed our instruction. We are not called to lead our husbands. We are called to be help mates them.
The third area in edifying your husband’s inner man is to meeting his needs. For some of you reading this, you automatically assumed I mean meeting his sexual needs. Don’t get me wrong, sexual intimacy is very important in the marriage relationship. However, meeting his needs of being loved and respected is far greater. Every one wants to be loved and treated with respect. Just because men are strong doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings, they do. They hurt and get down just like we do.
You can prepare a special meal or place a love note in his pocket. You could even buy him an unexpected and inexpensive small gift.
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Very Correct Pastor... Keep it Up
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